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learning the meaning of 'trust yourself' 



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trust yourself - that is, your true self, linked to God

Many years ago, when I first began to investigate psychic-mediums, I would receive the same message via several different psychics:

"You're not trusting yourself enough!" "You need to believe in yourself a whole lot more!" "You need to go within and listen to yourself!"

This barrage of similar message began to irritate me. I've always considered myself an independent spirit, one who has "become the prairie," and so this recurring mantra to trust myself seemed unnecessary and missplaced.

But I would yet perceive that my Spirit advisors had an important lesson for me: qualities such as confidence, élan, and determination must issue from the better part of oneself, from the intuitive, higher-order "true self," which is linked to God, not the "false self," lest our seeming self-assurance be founded upon egoism. 

I would finally come to learn that a mandate to trust oneself, in the best sense, is not what we think it is.

Trusting oneself, in common parlance, is similar to having various religious beliefs. See the article on “Believe” for more discussion; however, trusting oneself, properly construed, is not an expression of willpower, of grit and determination. It’s not a choice, as such – see Jiddu Krishnamurti’s thoughts on “choice” as the best on this subject.

Essentially, the issue becomes this: If we are attuned to the “true self,” to Universal Consciousness, to God within, then a sense of direction for one’s life, with concomitant mental peace, naturally rises to the surface of personhood – no effort needed. This is what I didn’t understand when the Guides kept telling me that I needed to trust myself a whole lot more. I was offended because I believed myself to be a reasonably confident person. But this was just the ego talking. I really didn’t know anything about authentic trusting oneself.

Restatement #1: A mandate to trust oneself might bring images to mind of sitting oneself down with inner-talk of, “Ok now, I need to hold my breath and try real hard to trust myself.” But it’s not like that. The confusion comes into play because of our past associations with churches that preach “you are commanded to believe this-or-that.” How do you do that when you really don’t believe it, but you want to do the right thing, so you exert mental energy to make it happen? And then you feel bad because it doesn't work. This is the suspect teaching of the Queen of Hearts:



"There is no use trying," said Alice; "one can't believe impossible things."

"I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast."

                                                Lewis Carroll



Channeled testimony via the mediumship of William W. Aber; presented in the book “The Dawn Of Another Life” by William Denton:

A spirit-entity on the other side discusses worldly belief:

“There can be no faith without freedom. It is not faith to attempt or pretend to believe the things which you are told you must believe. Even to seek to comply is to prove your fear rather than your faith, your apprehension of some dreaded consequence attendant on failure to conform.

“To say, ‘I believe,’ lest a catastrophe attend the honest denial of such belief, is to play the liar and the coward.”



But authentic trusting oneself has nothing to do with trying very hard. In fact, you don’t try at all. You just allow a sense of what’s real to percolate upward from the deep inner person. And when you do this, not only do you not have to try to accept anything, the truth coming to us from within will, sort of, grab hold of us, and immerse our lives in its reality. This is much different than taping pithy aphorisms on a bathroom mirror in the hope that some of it might change us.

post a new affirmation today:
"think for yourself,
trust yourself, your true self,
be your own person,

avoid all cults and gurus,
have a nice day"


Allow the inner wisdom of your own soul, long sequestered and mired in the propaganda of this world, to rise to the surface of personhood, to lead you, to be your constant friend and guide, and then you'll never again need to post anything on your bathroom mirror.

Restatement #2: Trusting oneself, in its largest view, is not really trusting oneself at all but building one’s essential life on the reality of God within.

Lesson #47 of the Course In Miracles’ Workbook is entitled “God is the strength in which I trust.” Here is an excerpt:

If you are trusting in your own strength, you have every reason to be apprehensive, anxious and fearful. What can you predict or control? What is there in you that can be counted on? What would give you the ability to be aware of all the facets of any problem, and to resolve them in such a way that only good can come of it? What is there in you that gives you the recognition of the right solution, and the guarantee that it will be accomplished?

Of yourself you can do none of these things. To believe that you can is to put your trust where trust is unwarranted, and to justify fear, anxiety, depression, anger and sorrow. Who can put his faith in weakness and feel safe? Yet who can put his faith in strength and feel weak? God is your safety in every circumstance…

The recognition of your own frailty is a necessary step in the correction of your errors, but it is hardly a sufficient one in giving you the confidence which you need, and to which you are enti­tled. You must also gain an awareness that confidence in your real strength is fully justified in every respect and in all circumstances.

The Course then instructs us to spend a few minutes centering ourselves, going within, attempting

to reach down into your mind to a place of real safety. You will recognize that you have reached it if you feel a sense of deep peace, however briefly. Let go all the trivial things that churn and bubble on the surface of your mind, and reach down and below them to the Kingdom of Heaven. There is a place in you where there is perfect peace. There is a place in you where nothing is impossible. There is a place in you where the strength of God abides.

This is the sense of trusting in oneself that will sustain us today, when we cross over, and a million years from now.



Editor's last word:

On the "True Self" page, see what many afterlife-entities have said, a long list, about "going within" and the need to build one's life on the hidden strength of the inner person linked to God.

Also, you may want to review my article on "The Secret" and related philosophies which misrepresent concepts of belief and trust.