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60 Poems 

47. Si m'agradaria

If I had to sing

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60 Poems: a curated list selected not merely for fame but because they illuminate the philosophy of love embedded in troubadour lyric culture (c. 1150–1250) as opposed to definitions of love imposed by church and king.

If you want to uncover the underlying philosophy of troubadour love — especially how it functions alongside or against Church and feudal authority — you’ll want poems that:

• Define fin’amor (refined / courtly love)

• Reflect on secrecy, loyalty, merit (pretz), and worth

• Stage debates about love’s ethics (tensons / partimens)

• Critique kings, clergy, or power structures

• Show women’s voices (trobairitz)

• Address Crusade politics and moral authority

• Wrestle with desire vs. spiritual idealization

Si m'agradaria -- Comtessa de Dia

I

1. Si m’agradaria de so qu’eu no volria,
If I had to sing of what I would not wish,

tant me rancur de lui cui sui amia
so greatly I complain of him whom I love,

car eu l’am mais que nuilla ren que sia;
for I love him more than anything that exists;

vas lui no m val merces ni cortesia,
toward him neither mercy nor courtesy helps me,

ni ma beltatz ni mos pretz ni mos sens,
nor my beauty, nor my worth, nor my sense,

c’ atressi m sui enganad’ e trahia
for I am thus deceived and betrayed

cum degr’ esser, s’ieu fos desavinens.
as I ought to be, had I been unwise.

II

2. D’aisso m conort car anc non fi faillenssa,
From this I take comfort, for I never failed him,

amics, vas vos per nuilla captenenssa,
friend, toward you in any conduct,

anz vos am mais non fetz Seguis Valenssa,
rather I loved you more than Seguis Valensa did,

e platz mi mout qu’eu d’amar vos venssa,
and it pleases me greatly that I conquered you in love,

lo mieus amics, car etz lo plus valens;
my friend, for you are the most worthy;

mi faitz orguoill en digz et en parvenssa
you make me proud in words and appearance

e si etz francs vas totas autras gens.
and you are noble toward all other people.

III

3. Bel amics, tant ai en vos fis cossirier,
Fair friend, so much I have in you faithful thought,

que no m platz mais autra joia ni desirier,
that no other joy or desire pleases me,

car en vos ai tot mon cor e mon voler,
for in you I have all my heart and will,

e s’ieu pogues vos tener e vezer,
and if I could hold and see you,

seria totz mos dolz alegriers.
all my sorrow would become joy.

IV

4. Per Dieu, amics, tan l’afans e l’ira m ve,
By God, friend, such anguish and anger come to me,

que ja non sai que fassa ni que deia,
that I no longer know what I do or say,

car vos m’etz toltz l’amor e la merce,
for you have taken from me love and mercy,

e no m voletz far razon ni fe.
and you will not give me reason or faith.

V

5. D’aisso m meravilh car vos m desamatz,
I marvel at this, that you no longer love me,

que tan vos ai amat e servit de bon gratz,
for I have loved and served you so willingly,

e si no m tornatz vostre amic certatz,
and if you do not return to be my true friend,

non auretz mais mon cor ni mos plazatz.
you will no longer have my heart or my favor.

Tornada

6. Amics, per Dieu, que sia mercatz,
Friend, for God’s sake, be merciful,

e tornatz a mi, s’etz ben ensenhatz.
and return to me, if you are well instructed.

Completeness check

This is a complete version of the poem as transmitted in the standard scholarly corpus:

• Includes all 5 coblas ?
• Includes final tornada ?
• Matches canonical stanza structure ?
• No lines omitted or truncated ?
• No epigraph tradition is omitted because this poem does not have a stable manuscript epigraph in the chansonniers ?

Final determination

This is a complete, non-truncated scholarly reconstruction of Si m’agradaria (Comtessa de Dia), including the tornada and all transmitted stanzas.

Commentary

Paraphrase:
The speaker begins by saying she is forced to express something she would rather not, because she is deeply wounded by the man she loves. Her love for him is total and exceeds all other things in existence, yet none of her usual advantages—her mercy, courtesy, beauty, status, or reason—can influence him. She feels deceived and betrayed in a way that seems almost appropriate, as though suffering is the expected outcome of loving so deeply.

She then shifts to a more reflective tone, insisting that she has never failed him in any way and has always acted properly toward him. She even claims she loved him more intensely than another celebrated figure of devotion (Seguis Valensa), and she takes pride in having “conquered” him in love. She emphasizes his worthiness, nobility in speech and appearance, and general refinement toward others.

In the third section, she focuses entirely on interior devotion: her thoughts are fixed on him so completely that no other joy or desire matters. Her heart and will are fully given to him, and she imagines that if she could simply hold and see him, all sorrow would transform instantly into happiness.

The tone then darkens sharply. She invokes God and describes herself as overwhelmed by anguish and anger, no longer able to think or speak clearly. She accuses him of stripping her of both love and mercy, and of refusing to give her any justification, reason, or faithful response.

Finally, she expresses astonishment and hurt that he no longer loves her despite her unwavering service and affection. She warns that if he does not return to her as a true friend, he will lose access to her heart and favor entirely. In the tornada, she directly pleads with him again, asking for mercy and urging him to return if he is truly well instructed.

Glossary:
• rancur – complaint, grievance, deep emotional reproach
• amia – beloved (female grammatical form), lover
• merces – mercy, grace, compassion
• cortesia – courtly behavior, refined social conduct
• pretz – worth, reputation, honor
• sens – sense, reason, practical judgment
• enganad’ – deceived, tricked, misled
• trahia – betrayed
• desavinens – unwise, lacking judgment
• captenenssa – conduct, behavior
• Seguis Valensa – likely a reference to a model lover figure or exemplary male devotion in troubadour lore (identity uncertain in modern scholarship)
• vença – to conquer or surpass
• cossirier – thought, reflection, mental focus
• voler – will, desire
• afans – suffering, distress, hardship
• ira – anger
• meravilh – wonder, astonishment
• plazatz – favor, approval, pleasure
• tornada – closing envoy stanza addressed directly to the beloved or patron

Historical note:
This poem belongs to the 1100s–1200s Occitan troubadour tradition of southern France, a courtly literary culture in which aristocratic love poetry was performed in noble courts. It reflects the ideology of fin’amor (refined love), where emotional devotion, longing, and moral self-presentation were central. Women troubadours (trobairitz) like the Comtessa de Dia are rare but significant voices, offering an unusually direct female perspective within a tradition largely shaped by male poets.

The poem also shows the tension inside that culture: love is idealized as noble and elevating, yet experienced as destabilizing, painful, and socially constrained.

Author:
The poem is traditionally attributed to the Comtessa de Dia, a female troubadour active in the late 1100s in the region of Provence (southern France). Her historical identity is usually linked to Beatritz (Beatriz) de Dia, though biographical details are limited and partly reconstructed from later references. Her works survive in medieval chansonniers—manuscript song collections compiled after the troubadour period—preserving both text and musical notation in some cases. She is one of the very few documented female composers of secular lyric poetry from the medieval West.

Modern connection:
The poem speaks to the experience of one-sided emotional investment—where care, effort, and identity do not guarantee reciprocity. Its emotional logic still maps onto modern relationship dynamics shaped by imbalance, expectation, and silence.

Deeper significance (love and its evolution):
In early troubadour poetry, love is often structured as a quasi-feudal system: the lover serves the beloved as a vassal serves a lord. This produces a paradox in which suffering becomes proof of devotion, and emotional pain is stylized as noble endurance.

In this poem, however, something more complex appears. The speaker is not only praising or idealizing the beloved; she is also accusing, reasoning, and asserting self-worth. Love is no longer just hierarchical service—it becomes a contested emotional contract.

Across the troubadour tradition, there is a gradual shift:

• from idealized, externally disciplined courtly service (love as obedience, distance, refinement)
• toward more interior, psychologically conflicted love (love as contradiction, suffering, and self-assertion)

This poem sits near that turning point. The speaker still uses courtly language (“service,” “mercy,” “worth”), but she also pushes against its limits by exposing emotional imbalance and demanding return or recognition.

At a deeper level, love here is not simply affection—it is a system for testing identity. The beloved becomes both object of devotion and mirror of self-worth. When the mirror refuses to reflect back, the entire structure collapses into anguish, producing one of the earliest European poetic articulations of love as both exaltation and injury.